Feedback Thoughts
I knew immediately that I would be drawn to any of the links that included "Perfectionism" in the title. To be completely honest, I have been a perfectionist since high school, and it's been something I've had to try and soothe since then. I cried when I made a 4 on my AP Literature exam instead of a 5. I cried when I made my first B EVER during my freshman year of college. For a while, I would turn things in dangerously close to the deadline because I spent way too long mulling over what I'd written, afraid it wasn't perfect or didn't showcase the talent I knew I had. In the article Recalibrating the Perfectionist Mind, it discusses the struggles that I know all to well, but it also gave some great insight to hopefully calming them further. I noticed it suggested looking at what is GOOD in what you've worked on rather than looking for mistakes all the time, which is something I think everyone could do from time to time! It not only helps with perfectionism and anxiety, but self-esteem as well, and could help prepare for some negative feedback. The article also focuses on a "recovery ritual," which is just a small action or gesture someone can do to remind themselves to move on and finish strong, no matter the task.
The second article I chose to focus on was Using Harsh Feedback to Fuel Your Career, which I clicked on because it sounds so spunky and driven. The first great advice that stuck with me was to ignore the fallacy of well-roundedness. You will not be great at everything, and sometimes you need to find someone who is good at what you're struggling with to help with a task. The author also says to embrace emotions. If you are upset about negative feedback or something not going as well as you'd hoped, then by all means, be upset! Don't throw a tantrum or anything, but allow yourself to feel how it makes you feel. Stewing doesn't help anyone, and neither does dwelling. Finally, I liked the advice about not demonizing anyone who gives you negative feedback. I'm guilty of this myself, because I find it really difficult to give negative feedback, so how dare they give me any!
Sailor Moon © Naoko Takeuchi, Toei Animation
Source: We Heart It
The second article I chose to focus on was Using Harsh Feedback to Fuel Your Career, which I clicked on because it sounds so spunky and driven. The first great advice that stuck with me was to ignore the fallacy of well-roundedness. You will not be great at everything, and sometimes you need to find someone who is good at what you're struggling with to help with a task. The author also says to embrace emotions. If you are upset about negative feedback or something not going as well as you'd hoped, then by all means, be upset! Don't throw a tantrum or anything, but allow yourself to feel how it makes you feel. Stewing doesn't help anyone, and neither does dwelling. Finally, I liked the advice about not demonizing anyone who gives you negative feedback. I'm guilty of this myself, because I find it really difficult to give negative feedback, so how dare they give me any!
Sailor Moon © Naoko Takeuchi, Toei Animation
Source: We Heart It
Hey Haley,
ReplyDeleteI agree with a lot of the points that you brought up about perfectionism, sometimes it can be a bit much. It really is easy to get hung up over small details and get frustrated when everything does not go your way. I also agree with the point of not dwelling on things, sometimes we just have to let things go for the better.